Being Consistent...

Let me begin with how difficult it is to be consistent. It takes a lot of practice and strength to be consistent with a sub. I started training today and I feel exhausted and overworked. I was off work all day planning out a timeline, schedule and notes on how to be more consistent and to make sure I'm doing my part. As a mistress, I know [because of my coach ;)] that consistency is key to making this relationship last. I really want this to last! I want to become enveloped in this lifestyle and make it the new "norm". After today I felt more alive in a sense. It is strange to think that and even to type it out; I guess what I mean is I feel like I finally did everything right! I didn't get frustrated [I get frustrated very easily], I didn't make any empty promises and I did not give in to her whining. I have a very hard time keeping her in her place.

Let me just back track a few days, Sunday we had a GREAT day! It seemed that everything went so smoothly. I let her go do her hobby in the early morning since I had plans and then when she arrived home we went straight into full action! I had her get dressed head to toe in her maid costume (a different one that the last post) and she cleaned up all the dirty clothes and tidied up the house very nicely. After that we did a nice few hours of isolation time [which I think will become to norm of our sundays]. The isolation time is complete with earphones that keep out most noise, blindfold so no light gets in her eyes, a nice medium size butt plug and each of her limbs securely chained to all four posts of the bed. hehe :) I usually just keep her in a full diaper during the sessions that way her diaper is super heavy and full by the time they are over. She seems to make a mess more when the files play. 

Later on when we were "ready for bed", I surprised her with the strap on. I think she knew it was coming but I made her think it would be my larger than life size, but I was nice and used the one about the size of her sissy clit. I could tell she enjoyed it quite a bit because she moaned a few times. I did not have her gagged this time because I wanted some feedback on the strap on. It has been a while since our last session so I wanted to know what I was doing right and wrong. She liked it, a lot, hahaha, I know she wanted more because it's an unfamiliar type of pleasure... it's painful yet enduring. I think I had hit the nail on the head too because she kept begging me to cum, but I just told her "NO!". I love being in charge. 

Monday was uneventful, she cleaned and did her usual chores. That night I let her play with me, it got pretty intense. My vibrator has many speeds and she kept going back and fourth through all of them! It was amazing and intense. She's not the best with vibrators, fore play or any sexual things other than vanilla sex. Although I must say, her vanilla sex is always awesome! That won't be happening for a long time though :). I actually had to have her stop pleasuring me because it was literally too much for my body to handle I can't remember exactly but I think I had around 10 orgasms. It was the  best job she's ever done. I was very proud of her. When we finished we laid down [she still gets to sleep in the bed beside me for now] but to keep her in her sissy place I made her keep her face in my ass until I fall asleep. It is quite comfortable, I love the heat from her breathe in between my legs, it gets me all wet. Tuesday and Wednesday were about the same as Monday since I am trying to get all my training and such in order. Plus we had to work on some stuff for the house that couldn't be put off anymore because we're having painters over on Saturday. [ Ugh Housework!] It is so nice to have a home of our own though, it is definitely worth all the hard work.

Thursday, probably one of my favorite days yet! I had arrangements with a friend to go to this art thing for her birthday so we got to paint and drink champagne it was fun and entertaining. When I got home Debbie was not in her attire like I had told her to be which got me a bit weary whether she ever had her chore clothes on. When I approached her and I asked her why she was in normal clothes; I realized she had a good point, she did not want to get the clothes dirty because I had worked so hard on making them for her. She was doing messy work on the walls and it was all over her. So I still told her she should have asked first, but it was "okay for this time only!'' [mostly because she had attempted to call/text me but I did not check my phone].  Well, we finished up the painting prep work so I told her to get ready for me to train her. I had been planning for this all day and was really looking forward to it. I helped her get dressed and she looked so damn cute in her new outfit I had made for her! I want to make at least 3 more petticoats so it is EXTRA BIG and POOFY! I had heels on a told her she needed to start observing how I walk in heels. I told her she had to shake her sissy ass more than I do when we get her some heels.

After we walked around for a bit and I showed her how to walk in heels, I had her practice "greeting me". I mean when I get home from work I want her to greet me a specific way. Every single time. If she does not do this I will put her in her cage and put the files I've been making her listen to on for an hour. So when I arrive home from work, she is to be on her knees and wait until I come in. I will put my hands out for her to kiss both, if I want her to kiss my ass or feet she will proceed after. Then she is instructed to ask how my day went. She will then take my stuff and put it away. I'm going to be on her little slutty ass if she does not do this greet right in order. I will give her one try tomorrow and she better get it right or into the cage she goes. After the greet training I made her crawl for a long time. She has wrist locks on with about a 3 foot chain holding her ankles together. To make it more difficult I pulled up on the chain and held it so her feet wouldn't be touching the floor. Just another "obstacle" for her. It was difficult and I'm sure it hurt her knees on the hardwoods. We have hardwoods in almost every room so I may have to get her some knees pads. HEHE. I Should put some girly frill stuff on them too! After a while of crawling it was to the bedroom. 

I let her listen to the files while I got her "ready" for the strap on. I first used the vibrating dildo, then I plugged her for a few minutes again to get her ready and then I used the strap on. She really thought I had the big one again! :) I am going to be nice for a few sessions until her little slut hole gets more used to it. It was awesome. I never would have imagined I could get off to the feeling of fucking a guy. So that was an amazing end to our wonderful day. It was a good step towards feeling better about this lifestyle. 

To say the least, I am very excited about what comes next. I cannot wait to see where this journey leads.

New Outfit! More to come later!

It has been a few days in the FemDom Lifestyle and I am very happy! I look forward to all the changes thats will happen over the next year [years!]. I am excited to say that my sissy has a new wardrobe coming soon. I have not started training yet and I know this is key to make this relationship last, but I plan to start tonight! I am excited to show you some of my work. I plan on making many, many costumes for my little sissy and am proud to say that I will be making 90% of them. I love to sew in my spare time and this is the perfect hobby for me! [Maybe I'll become a pro one day ;)]

So the first "sissy outfit" is the most common french maid.
Now, I know every good sissy who must clean has one of these outfits. Mine is completed with two petticoats, an apron on top for cute things to be put inside of [extra butt plug anyone?], long silky white gloves, a bone-in corset mock top [not a true corset, just looks like one], and of course garters, long black fishnets, and a beautiful thong and red ruffle panties.

Deb's newest addition, just the skirt!

So, in spite of how small it looks it will fit her perfectly. The petticoats will make it nice and poofy so her cute little ass shows through, or diaper if she has it on as well. Normally she wears diapers, but sometimes I wait to put them on until I get home. I am very proud of my work and cannot wait until she gets to try it on today! I'm celebrating a birthday tonight so I won't be home until 8ish. I plan to use my sissy to her full potential when I get back! I will definitely be using this a lot and for my next project, I will be making a super shiny pink skirt with a matching top and poofy sleeves! This makes me so excited. I will try to share all of my  work with this blog. 

The underside showing off the petticoats!

I will post more tonight when I get home! I have a lot to update about the past few days, but I really wanted to share this since I got so excited about it!

Cheers for now!

First successful weekend of rediscovering chastity!

If you do not like male chastity, you should probably read no further. If you do not know what male chastity/ male slave life is and would like to know more about the topic please enjoy this new post.

First, a little bit of background on discovering male chastity. This is my second [err... third?] time around investigating the lifestyle of male chastity/ female lead relationships [FLR]. My boyfriend of over four years and I first discovered male chastity a little over a year ago and decided to give it a whirl. The first time around was less than successful and personally I did not care much for it. However, I was thrilled by the fact that the only orgasm my man would receive would be from myself. You see the entire lifestyle has to do with the man succumbing to the woman's every wish and demand. The first two years of my relationship with my boyfriend were fabulous. All the butterflies and fun energetic and sexual moments were fantastic. Well, as time went on I noticed subtle but noticeable changes. Mostly in the bedroom. I was never fully satisfied and he could tell. He is a very intelligent and good looking man who is also very in touch with his emotions and can easily read others. At first thought one would think that is great, however when you are trying to hide emotions from someone that can read you like a book, it is not great. One day he sent me a "text from last night" if you do not know what this is I will quickly explain. Basically they are hilarious quotes from people from all over that say something demeaning or just down right funny to one another, usually intoxicated or in another mind altered state.  It said something along the lines of " fucking you in the butt with your CB3000 on". Now I know what you're thinking " you are a fucked up person!", I probably am, but the idea of a cage on my man's dick was more than enticing. It would allow me to be able to control when, where and how he orgasms.

I noticed a few years ago that our sexual lifestyle was not as fun and exciting as in the beginning. This happens with many couples... as you get to know each other better you get more comfortable and you fall into a "couple slumber". What do I mean couple slumber? Well basically you get sucked into the same routine, sexually and non-sexually. Now do I think that male chastity is solely sexually, yes, but not for myself. I do not mind so much having sex or not. I know that I love him with or without it - do we both love the act? YES! Of course! We are both young, fit, attractive people. My point is- we do not have to have sex everyday to stay close and feel connected. Our connection and love is much deeper than that. I honestly feel closer now that we have intimately explored options other than just regular sex. The few friends I have told about this do not fully understand why I want my man's dick locked up. Number one: he is completely unable to cheat. Now he would not do this anyways- we have too much trust and are too open for that. Number two: it is FUN! Number three: he does anything I ask of him! Some people may find comfort in chastity because of the cheating aspect- it only crosses my mind when I tell others about it. From other forums that I have read a lot of people depend on chastity because they may have had some problems with other partners in the past or are overcoming a bad experience from a cheating partner. If that is your reason for chastity that is great but it is not solely just a device that should be on your man( or woman's) genitalia. You need to have a set of rules, goals and and understanding of the lifestyle. It is not simply chastity, it is a LIFESTYLE. I am repeating this so much because it took me a few times to fully understand it.

Now for a bit of info on our past attempts of . We started out by purchasing the CB6000, despite some of the bad reviews and the plastic it was cheap and we wanted to get something to just try it out. Well, we got the CB6000 and used it for a little while maybe a few months, it broke, I fixed it, it broke again, I fixed it again. This was getting old quick and I didn't read or research anything about dominating a male slave until after the trial period. The device was terrible mostly because it was plastic, had no room for swelling-which will happen and although you do not want much room for your man's dick you need just a tiny bit so it is not restricting blood flow all of the time, and most of all the device was dirty-it was very difficult to clean and smelled BAD! I do not want to go into detail about how bad it smelled- lets just say if he was going to bed and was naked and lifted the covers you could smell how dirty it was. We cleaned it too! We cleaned it almost everyday- and by clean it I mean we completely took the device off and washed it thoroughly. It was not a custom fit though, it was just a mass produced piece of plastic for people wanting to "try out chastity". Some people think it works- it doesn't. During the trial period of male chastity I was not serious- I just thought it was cute and funny to see my man walk around with this funny looking plastic cage on his dick. It was painful for him and he figured out a way to squeeze out of the cage so he could jack off. Let me tell you from experience a horny person will do anything to get off! Even jack off with the plastic cage! The male genitalia has the ability to get very, very small when not hard and it is malleable, so it can easily squeeze out of things if pushed far enough. To make things worse I knew he was getting off somehow because he wasn't as horny as he had been when we first put the cage on, so I asked him- we are very open so he told me how he did it. I couldn't believe it I felt betrayed. I felt like he had lied to me on many levels and I felt that I would loose trust in him if he did it again. All of these feelings were overwhelming and I decided we would end it all together. A few months later I missed the idea of chastity and being in control of your loved one. Then I decided we should give it another shot. We did, it was a bit more successful the first "real" time around. I started looking into chastity more and he found a great forum on chastitymansion.com about a couple that explored the realm of chastity as well. They had become pretty extreme and reading the posts together was almost like reading a good book every night before we went to bed. I fantasized about how I wanted the same lifestyle. A man that loved me unconditionally and would literally do anything I asked of him.

After our first "real" time to explore the world of chastity I was pretty successful at first and I slowly but surely lost interest. However, after loosing interest I pretended to still "want" to follow through with the lifestyle- I was so busy with work and other things going on in my life I forgot to play my role in this crazy roller-coaster of  a relationship. I still had my love wearing his device and was making him crazy. He was literally going out of his mind because I was not teasing or milking him or doing anything on my part. Sure enough I finally decided he should take it off and we have a few months off until I felt like I could follow through in my role.
About three or four months past, and I was READY! I felt rested and assured that I was going to be the best damn mistress I could possibly be. This time I felt like I was back for good. I think he could tell too because I kind of hit the ground running. It has only been a few days in and I am finally doing things I want to do. I have a pet name for [her] yes HER, because feminization is key to making this work. She has to be below me, I must always be right and superior to her. Well call her Debbie since that is her official name now. I have actually been calling her debbie for a few weeks now to get her use to it again. So she responds to it all the time. At home Debbie is the name and in public I call her a shorter version... Deb Deebb, whatever I feel necessary. Our mutual good friend was over last night and I accidentally uttered "Deb come here" her eyes lit up! Luckily I do not think our friend even noticed. :) hehe. She thinks I may be evil... she may be right I do like some of the more sadistic aspects of this relationship. She asked me earlier today if she was still my boyfriend and I just replied with " for now ". It is amusing to see her reactions to some of the things I say.
Now that I have all of the past out of the way, the new beginning of this amazing relationship has had an amplified and quite amazing start! I am surprised at how much I have done and how good I have been at keeping my word. I am very forgetful sometimes so I will say I'm going to do something and not follow through. I am being CONSISTENT this time. I know it seems simple- it is not simple- it is not simple at all. This lifestyle is very tedious and results will come but only with patience and consistence. I have a coach. I am not able yet to do this all on my own. She is a very talented and wise mistress, she stuck by me even though I disappeared for months and never spoke to her during my "crash", honestly- I was a bit ashamed to tell her I had fallen off the bandwagon- and when I fell I crashed, ran into a wall and lost conscience.
On to a more positive note! I decided to go full bore into owning a slave this time and I did! I am very proud of myself. Why be a mistress if you're not completely confident and a bit boastful anyway? :) So we started off the weekend by keeping my little pet in her proper place, chained up in a room we made together with eyebolts and chain link attached to her nice-brand new leather wrist and ankle cuffs. I started by playing some wave files I got from a great resource esuccubus.com WONDERFUL files on this site! Just FYI if you decide to use them a lot PLEASE donate to her! She is a goddess when it comes to these files her voice is PERFECT and the way she uses background sounds and clicks with triggers is just down right ridiculous. So I know for a FACT that some of these files are working... every time I say "good boy" for a job well done she shakes her head and kind of beats her eyes at me. The more she gets to hear these the better though. I have not yet mentioned DIAPERS. YES, adult diapers; why?! They are so damn cute and they make her super dependent on me. It also seems to be another source of mind-fucking her into doing what I want. They are comfy and from what she says "convenient"  which I thought was just funny at first but now she is getting to the point where she uses it every night I tell her to. If I say you better make a mess tonight the next morning she has been very embarrassed by the fact that she had done it in the night unknowingly.
So far you have ALL the background info, the diaper info and the beginning of an exciting new lifestyle. I will make an attempt to post every day that it is possible.

Weekends are ify because sometimes we go to the lake or out of town but I will try my best!
I hope anyone who reads this enjoys my post and please "like" it if you do. Cheers for now! I hope to write some more juicy details soon!
[Wew! I know this is a long post and they may or may not be this long but I have had a lot on my mind the past week or so and needed a way to release it all.]
Mistress Vittoria