If you do not like male chastity, you should probably read no further. If you do not know what male chastity/ male slave life is and would like to know more about the topic please enjoy this new post.
First, a little bit of background on discovering male chastity. This is my second [err... third?] time around investigating the lifestyle of male chastity/ female lead relationships [FLR]. My boyfriend of over four years and I first discovered male chastity a little over a year ago and decided to give it a whirl. The first time around was less than successful and personally I did not care much for it. However, I was thrilled by the fact that the only orgasm my man would receive would be from myself. You see the entire lifestyle has to do with the man succumbing to the woman's every wish and demand. The first two years of my relationship with my boyfriend were fabulous. All the butterflies and fun energetic and sexual moments were fantastic. Well, as time went on I noticed subtle but noticeable changes. Mostly in the bedroom. I was never fully satisfied and he could tell. He is a very intelligent and good looking man who is also very in touch with his emotions and can easily read others. At first thought one would think that is great, however when you are trying to hide emotions from someone that can read you like a book, it is not great. One day he sent me a "text from last night" if you do not know what this is I will quickly explain. Basically they are hilarious quotes from people from all over that say something demeaning or just down right funny to one another, usually intoxicated or in another mind altered state. It said something along the lines of " fucking you in the butt with your CB3000 on". Now I know what you're thinking " you are a fucked up person!", I probably am, but the idea of a cage on my man's dick was more than enticing. It would allow me to be able to control when, where and how he orgasms.
I noticed a few years ago that our sexual lifestyle was not as fun and exciting as in the beginning. This happens with many couples... as you get to know each other better you get more comfortable and you fall into a "couple slumber". What do I mean couple slumber? Well basically you get sucked into the same routine, sexually and non-sexually. Now do I think that male chastity is solely sexually, yes, but not for myself. I do not mind so much having sex or not. I know that I love him with or without it - do we both love the act? YES! Of course! We are both young, fit, attractive people. My point is- we do not have to have sex everyday to stay close and feel connected. Our connection and love is much deeper than that. I honestly feel closer now that we have intimately explored options other than just regular sex. The few friends I have told about this do not fully understand why I want my man's dick locked up. Number one: he is completely unable to cheat. Now he would not do this anyways- we have too much trust and are too open for that. Number two: it is FUN! Number three: he does anything I ask of him! Some people may find comfort in chastity because of the cheating aspect- it only crosses my mind when I tell others about it. From other forums that I have read a lot of people depend on chastity because they may have had some problems with other partners in the past or are overcoming a bad experience from a cheating partner. If that is your reason for chastity that is great but it is not solely just a device that should be on your man( or woman's) genitalia. You need to have a set of rules, goals and and understanding of the lifestyle. It is not simply chastity, it is a LIFESTYLE. I am repeating this so much because it took me a few times to fully understand it.
Now for a bit of info on our past attempts of . We started out by purchasing the CB6000, despite some of the bad reviews and the plastic it was cheap and we wanted to get something to just try it out. Well, we got the CB6000 and used it for a little while maybe a few months, it broke, I fixed it, it broke again, I fixed it again. This was getting old quick and I didn't read or research anything about dominating a male slave until after the trial period. The device was terrible mostly because it was plastic, had no room for swelling-which will happen and although you do not want much room for your man's dick you need just a tiny bit so it is not restricting blood flow all of the time, and most of all the device was dirty-it was very difficult to clean and smelled BAD! I do not want to go into detail about how bad it smelled- lets just say if he was going to bed and was naked and lifted the covers you could smell how dirty it was. We cleaned it too! We cleaned it almost everyday- and by clean it I mean we completely took the device off and washed it thoroughly. It was not a custom fit though, it was just a mass produced piece of plastic for people wanting to "try out chastity". Some people think it works- it doesn't. During the trial period of male chastity I was not serious- I just thought it was cute and funny to see my man walk around with this funny looking plastic cage on his dick. It was painful for him and he figured out a way to squeeze out of the cage so he could jack off. Let me tell you from experience a horny person will do anything to get off! Even jack off with the plastic cage! The male genitalia has the ability to get very, very small when not hard and it is malleable, so it can easily squeeze out of things if pushed far enough. To make things worse I knew he was getting off somehow because he wasn't as horny as he had been when we first put the cage on, so I asked him- we are very open so he told me how he did it. I couldn't believe it I felt betrayed. I felt like he had lied to me on many levels and I felt that I would loose trust in him if he did it again. All of these feelings were overwhelming and I decided we would end it all together. A few months later I missed the idea of chastity and being in control of your loved one. Then I decided we should give it another shot. We did, it was a bit more successful the first "real" time around. I started looking into chastity more and he found a great forum on chastitymansion.com about a couple that explored the realm of chastity as well. They had become pretty extreme and reading the posts together was almost like reading a good book every night before we went to bed. I fantasized about how I wanted the same lifestyle. A man that loved me unconditionally and would literally do anything I asked of him.
After our first "real" time to explore the world of chastity I was pretty successful at first and I slowly but surely lost interest. However, after loosing interest I pretended to still "want" to follow through with the lifestyle- I was so busy with work and other things going on in my life I forgot to play my role in this crazy roller-coaster of a relationship. I still had my love wearing his device and was making him crazy. He was literally going out of his mind because I was not teasing or milking him or doing anything on my part. Sure enough I finally decided he should take it off and we have a few months off until I felt like I could follow through in my role.
About three or four months past, and I was READY! I felt rested and assured that I was going to be the best damn mistress I could possibly be. This time I felt like I was back for good. I think he could tell too because I kind of hit the ground running. It has only been a few days in and I am finally doing things I want to do. I have a pet name for [her] yes HER, because feminization is key to making this work. She has to be below me, I must always be right and superior to her. Well call her Debbie since that is her official name now. I have actually been calling her debbie for a few weeks now to get her use to it again. So she responds to it all the time. At home Debbie is the name and in public I call her a shorter version... Deb Deebb, whatever I feel necessary. Our mutual good friend was over last night and I accidentally uttered "Deb come here" her eyes lit up! Luckily I do not think our friend even noticed. :) hehe. She thinks I may be evil... she may be right I do like some of the more sadistic aspects of this relationship. She asked me earlier today if she was still my boyfriend and I just replied with " for now ". It is amusing to see her reactions to some of the things I say.
Now that I have all of the past out of the way, the new beginning of this amazing relationship has had an amplified and quite amazing start! I am surprised at how much I have done and how good I have been at keeping my word. I am very forgetful sometimes so I will say I'm going to do something and not follow through. I am being CONSISTENT this time. I know it seems simple- it is not simple- it is not simple at all. This lifestyle is very tedious and results will come but only with patience and consistence. I have a coach. I am not able yet to do this all on my own. She is a very talented and wise mistress, she stuck by me even though I disappeared for months and never spoke to her during my "crash", honestly- I was a bit ashamed to tell her I had fallen off the bandwagon- and when I fell I crashed, ran into a wall and lost conscience.
On to a more positive note! I decided to go full bore into owning a slave this time and I did! I am very proud of myself. Why be a mistress if you're not completely confident and a bit boastful anyway? :) So we started off the weekend by keeping my little pet in her proper place, chained up in a room we made together with eyebolts and chain link attached to her nice-brand new leather wrist and ankle cuffs. I started by playing some wave files I got from a great resource esuccubus.com WONDERFUL files on this site! Just FYI if you decide to use them a lot PLEASE donate to her! She is a goddess when it comes to these files her voice is PERFECT and the way she uses background sounds and clicks with triggers is just down right ridiculous. So I know for a FACT that some of these files are working... every time I say "good boy" for a job well done she shakes her head and kind of beats her eyes at me. The more she gets to hear these the better though. I have not yet mentioned DIAPERS. YES, adult diapers; why?! They are so damn cute and they make her super dependent on me. It also seems to be another source of mind-fucking her into doing what I want. They are comfy and from what she says "convenient" which I thought was just funny at first but now she is getting to the point where she uses it every night I tell her to. If I say you better make a mess tonight the next morning she has been very embarrassed by the fact that she had done it in the night unknowingly.
So far you have ALL the background info, the diaper info and the beginning of an exciting new lifestyle. I will make an attempt to post every day that it is possible.
Weekends are ify because sometimes we go to the lake or out of town but I will try my best!
I hope anyone who reads this enjoys my post and please "like" it if you do. Cheers for now! I hope to write some more juicy details soon!
[Wew! I know this is a long post and they may or may not be this long but I have had a lot on my mind the past week or so and needed a way to release it all.]
Mistress Vittoria
First, a little bit of background on discovering male chastity. This is my second [err... third?] time around investigating the lifestyle of male chastity/ female lead relationships [FLR]. My boyfriend of over four years and I first discovered male chastity a little over a year ago and decided to give it a whirl. The first time around was less than successful and personally I did not care much for it. However, I was thrilled by the fact that the only orgasm my man would receive would be from myself. You see the entire lifestyle has to do with the man succumbing to the woman's every wish and demand. The first two years of my relationship with my boyfriend were fabulous. All the butterflies and fun energetic and sexual moments were fantastic. Well, as time went on I noticed subtle but noticeable changes. Mostly in the bedroom. I was never fully satisfied and he could tell. He is a very intelligent and good looking man who is also very in touch with his emotions and can easily read others. At first thought one would think that is great, however when you are trying to hide emotions from someone that can read you like a book, it is not great. One day he sent me a "text from last night" if you do not know what this is I will quickly explain. Basically they are hilarious quotes from people from all over that say something demeaning or just down right funny to one another, usually intoxicated or in another mind altered state. It said something along the lines of " fucking you in the butt with your CB3000 on". Now I know what you're thinking " you are a fucked up person!", I probably am, but the idea of a cage on my man's dick was more than enticing. It would allow me to be able to control when, where and how he orgasms.
I noticed a few years ago that our sexual lifestyle was not as fun and exciting as in the beginning. This happens with many couples... as you get to know each other better you get more comfortable and you fall into a "couple slumber". What do I mean couple slumber? Well basically you get sucked into the same routine, sexually and non-sexually. Now do I think that male chastity is solely sexually, yes, but not for myself. I do not mind so much having sex or not. I know that I love him with or without it - do we both love the act? YES! Of course! We are both young, fit, attractive people. My point is- we do not have to have sex everyday to stay close and feel connected. Our connection and love is much deeper than that. I honestly feel closer now that we have intimately explored options other than just regular sex. The few friends I have told about this do not fully understand why I want my man's dick locked up. Number one: he is completely unable to cheat. Now he would not do this anyways- we have too much trust and are too open for that. Number two: it is FUN! Number three: he does anything I ask of him! Some people may find comfort in chastity because of the cheating aspect- it only crosses my mind when I tell others about it. From other forums that I have read a lot of people depend on chastity because they may have had some problems with other partners in the past or are overcoming a bad experience from a cheating partner. If that is your reason for chastity that is great but it is not solely just a device that should be on your man( or woman's) genitalia. You need to have a set of rules, goals and and understanding of the lifestyle. It is not simply chastity, it is a LIFESTYLE. I am repeating this so much because it took me a few times to fully understand it.
Now for a bit of info on our past attempts of . We started out by purchasing the CB6000, despite some of the bad reviews and the plastic it was cheap and we wanted to get something to just try it out. Well, we got the CB6000 and used it for a little while maybe a few months, it broke, I fixed it, it broke again, I fixed it again. This was getting old quick and I didn't read or research anything about dominating a male slave until after the trial period. The device was terrible mostly because it was plastic, had no room for swelling-which will happen and although you do not want much room for your man's dick you need just a tiny bit so it is not restricting blood flow all of the time, and most of all the device was dirty-it was very difficult to clean and smelled BAD! I do not want to go into detail about how bad it smelled- lets just say if he was going to bed and was naked and lifted the covers you could smell how dirty it was. We cleaned it too! We cleaned it almost everyday- and by clean it I mean we completely took the device off and washed it thoroughly. It was not a custom fit though, it was just a mass produced piece of plastic for people wanting to "try out chastity". Some people think it works- it doesn't. During the trial period of male chastity I was not serious- I just thought it was cute and funny to see my man walk around with this funny looking plastic cage on his dick. It was painful for him and he figured out a way to squeeze out of the cage so he could jack off. Let me tell you from experience a horny person will do anything to get off! Even jack off with the plastic cage! The male genitalia has the ability to get very, very small when not hard and it is malleable, so it can easily squeeze out of things if pushed far enough. To make things worse I knew he was getting off somehow because he wasn't as horny as he had been when we first put the cage on, so I asked him- we are very open so he told me how he did it. I couldn't believe it I felt betrayed. I felt like he had lied to me on many levels and I felt that I would loose trust in him if he did it again. All of these feelings were overwhelming and I decided we would end it all together. A few months later I missed the idea of chastity and being in control of your loved one. Then I decided we should give it another shot. We did, it was a bit more successful the first "real" time around. I started looking into chastity more and he found a great forum on chastitymansion.com about a couple that explored the realm of chastity as well. They had become pretty extreme and reading the posts together was almost like reading a good book every night before we went to bed. I fantasized about how I wanted the same lifestyle. A man that loved me unconditionally and would literally do anything I asked of him.
After our first "real" time to explore the world of chastity I was pretty successful at first and I slowly but surely lost interest. However, after loosing interest I pretended to still "want" to follow through with the lifestyle- I was so busy with work and other things going on in my life I forgot to play my role in this crazy roller-coaster of a relationship. I still had my love wearing his device and was making him crazy. He was literally going out of his mind because I was not teasing or milking him or doing anything on my part. Sure enough I finally decided he should take it off and we have a few months off until I felt like I could follow through in my role.
About three or four months past, and I was READY! I felt rested and assured that I was going to be the best damn mistress I could possibly be. This time I felt like I was back for good. I think he could tell too because I kind of hit the ground running. It has only been a few days in and I am finally doing things I want to do. I have a pet name for [her] yes HER, because feminization is key to making this work. She has to be below me, I must always be right and superior to her. Well call her Debbie since that is her official name now. I have actually been calling her debbie for a few weeks now to get her use to it again. So she responds to it all the time. At home Debbie is the name and in public I call her a shorter version... Deb Deebb, whatever I feel necessary. Our mutual good friend was over last night and I accidentally uttered "Deb come here" her eyes lit up! Luckily I do not think our friend even noticed. :) hehe. She thinks I may be evil... she may be right I do like some of the more sadistic aspects of this relationship. She asked me earlier today if she was still my boyfriend and I just replied with " for now ". It is amusing to see her reactions to some of the things I say.
Now that I have all of the past out of the way, the new beginning of this amazing relationship has had an amplified and quite amazing start! I am surprised at how much I have done and how good I have been at keeping my word. I am very forgetful sometimes so I will say I'm going to do something and not follow through. I am being CONSISTENT this time. I know it seems simple- it is not simple- it is not simple at all. This lifestyle is very tedious and results will come but only with patience and consistence. I have a coach. I am not able yet to do this all on my own. She is a very talented and wise mistress, she stuck by me even though I disappeared for months and never spoke to her during my "crash", honestly- I was a bit ashamed to tell her I had fallen off the bandwagon- and when I fell I crashed, ran into a wall and lost conscience.
On to a more positive note! I decided to go full bore into owning a slave this time and I did! I am very proud of myself. Why be a mistress if you're not completely confident and a bit boastful anyway? :) So we started off the weekend by keeping my little pet in her proper place, chained up in a room we made together with eyebolts and chain link attached to her nice-brand new leather wrist and ankle cuffs. I started by playing some wave files I got from a great resource esuccubus.com WONDERFUL files on this site! Just FYI if you decide to use them a lot PLEASE donate to her! She is a goddess when it comes to these files her voice is PERFECT and the way she uses background sounds and clicks with triggers is just down right ridiculous. So I know for a FACT that some of these files are working... every time I say "good boy" for a job well done she shakes her head and kind of beats her eyes at me. The more she gets to hear these the better though. I have not yet mentioned DIAPERS. YES, adult diapers; why?! They are so damn cute and they make her super dependent on me. It also seems to be another source of mind-fucking her into doing what I want. They are comfy and from what she says "convenient" which I thought was just funny at first but now she is getting to the point where she uses it every night I tell her to. If I say you better make a mess tonight the next morning she has been very embarrassed by the fact that she had done it in the night unknowingly.
So far you have ALL the background info, the diaper info and the beginning of an exciting new lifestyle. I will make an attempt to post every day that it is possible.
Weekends are ify because sometimes we go to the lake or out of town but I will try my best!
I hope anyone who reads this enjoys my post and please "like" it if you do. Cheers for now! I hope to write some more juicy details soon!
[Wew! I know this is a long post and they may or may not be this long but I have had a lot on my mind the past week or so and needed a way to release it all.]
Mistress Vittoria
There is a free hypnosis file that you can use to enhance the security of the belt and prevent pullout. It really can work if your sub gives the file a few listens.
ReplyDeleteThere are also some handy triggers that the keyholder can use for teasing and to more easily manage the logistics of keyholding.
Link to more info:
http://tinyurl.com/kfak5mc
I think you would find that the file would really enhance your sense of control.